Many times we find it difficult to trust; to trust others and to trust ourselves. There are many times when I have said that I trust myself but however my actions and behaviors showed otherwise. What is trust? It is a "firm" belief in the reliability, truth or ability of someone or something. I love the word "firm" in the definition because it means without it, that is not trust; it is something else. Do you firmly believe in the reliability of yourself?
Trusting oneself is a process that I believe is rooted in intuition. What then is intuition? It is the ability to understand something instinctively without the need for conscious reasoning. This becomes difficult for a person like me because I almost always look for tangible and conscious reasoning. When I do not find it, doubts starts creeping in thereby loosing trust in my abilities. Discernment and vivid dreams are some of the signs of intuition. What is it that you dream of? Do you take it seriously? I used to not care about my dreams, until I realized that dreams have meaning and they always come to life in the physical world, thus if one wants to have intuition its time to pay attention to dreams. I rarely remember most of my dreams but the ones I do, trust me they also come to life one way or another. Discernment- I love this word because it is soo full of meaning, power and weight. I can define it as the ability to recognize small details accurately, to tell the difference between similar situations. Discernment comes with laser focus or what I like to call tunnel vision, paying full attention on your life. If you are easily distracted and not paying enough attention, how the will you be able to see the small details in a situation. Thus one needs to focus on their life despite the noise around them because this is a requirement in the process of trusting ourselves.
Patience is also a requirement in this process of trusting ourselves. Patience is one of the cornerstone of this trust. Life is made up of different seasons and experiences: and in all this, patience is virtue. One should have the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems or suffering without being anxious. This is not an easy thing to do but its something everyone needs to learn, to be flexible in every situation and know that everything shall come to pass and trust that you can handle everything. I love this song which is titled, "wait on the Lord" by Maverick City Music because it teaches me everyday that in order to have patience sometimes I need to wait and pause: and be able to really pay attention to the situation and then regain momentum when I have really decided which way I want to go. Impatience sometimes can lead us to move fast but in the direction that is opposite to where we want to go thereby making us lose trust in ourselves.
When it comes to trusting myself, I have learnt that inner peace is of importance. I used to be very anxious about my life but I do not know when I started experiencing this inner peace. Recently I have a seen a change in my life , even when I know for certain that something is about to erupt in my life, I just feel a sense of calmness despite the burdens on the horizon. Inner peace is really hard to explain in words because in every situation I know even if everything burns down to the ground, I am still going to be okay and I have the capacity to start again. I firmly believe that I will be able to deal with whatever is thrown my way. This to me is trusting in myself. Then my questioning is what is your definition of trusting in yourself, because I have wrote about my experience. Do you trust yourself? Do you like yourself when no one is around? Do you have the intuition to trust your decisions?
What then is the importance of trusting oneself? Trusting myself have helped me in building confidence in myself. I know for sure that I have the capacity to make the right decisions when it comes to my life. It has also given me the platform to speak my truth thereby giving me a sense of empowerment. I have also been able to allow other people to trust me as well as learn to trust others. So all in all trusting myself have been beneficial.
